Power to Evolve After 40: Reflecting & Rejoicing in Transformation
When I turned 40, something shifted. It did not happen overnight, but gradually and undeniably. Despite the challenges of divorce, single parenthood, betrayal, grief, and financial hardship, I felt a stronger pull towards something more. It wasn’t something more to do, but someone to become. It was the power of spiritual growth that would increase my capacity for more in every area of my life. My reflection was like an internal mirror, revealing it was time for me to rejoice because change was coming. But I had to embrace the change, and I did so with grace and hope.
For many Black women, reaching this season in life is a revelation after putting others first, setting goals, and pursuing dreams. You can hear a quieter, deeper invitation when you reflect and tap into your inner self. You sense a call to transform — not because you’re broken and need fixing, but because now you’re secure enough to become your whole authentic self.
Time to Debunk the Myth
“People may call what happens at midlife ‘a crisis,’ but it’s not. It’s an unraveling — a time when you feel a desperate pull to live the life you want to live, not the one you’re ‘supposed’ to live. The unraveling is a time when you are challenged by the universe to let go of who you think you are supposed to be and to embrace who you are.” — Brené Brown.
You can debunk the myth of midlife crisis when you reflect and receive the revelation of your call to transform. Like Brené, see it as an unraveling. Embrace the change and rejoice in your becoming! Live in the present with enthusiasm about a hope-filled future. Refuse to believe the changes you experience are signs of falling apart. See them as signs of a soul-awakening.
Reasons to Reflect and Rejoice in Transformation
Your transformation is not always glamorous. It can be uncomfortable, unpleasant, quiet, even lonely. But it is a divine aspect of your growth, like the natural seasons in life. Thankfully, you don’t have to be alone.
Start reflecting on the challenges you have overcome, even the smallest victories.
Give yourself permission to rejoice over the small things.
Surround yourself with like-minded, positive women.
Above all, hold on to hope — the kind that anchors your soul even when the winds of change blow strong and the storms of life rage relentlessly.
Remember, you can evolve by embracing your authentic self and answering the call to transform. When you experience the power to evolve, you can inspire other Black women over 40 to embrace transformation and rejoice in their growth process. Imagine a powerful, vibrant community of Black women changing generational narratives, reclaiming joy, renewing hope and stepping into new power unbothered, unashamedly, and unapologetically.
Queen Esther Phillips is a published author, owner of Royalty Solutions LLC, certified life coach, and speaker with 30+ years of creating and publishing faith-based content. Connect with her at www.theroyaltysolutions.com.